The discreet dating glossary.
Sixty concise definitions explain the words people actually use in profiles, with examples and related terms.
NSA
NSA means no strings attached: a casual connection without an expected progression into a conventional relationship.
Explore →Friends with benefitsFWB
FWB means friends with benefits: people who have a friendly connection and also meet for physical intimacy without being a conventional couple.
Explore →Dating termAttached
Attached means someone is already married, partnered or otherwise in an established relationship.
Explore →Dating termDiscreet
Discreet means keeping a dating connection private and separate from public, work or family life.
Explore →Dating termCasual arrangement
A casual arrangement is a connection with agreed limits and no automatic expectation of becoming a conventional relationship.
Explore →Dating termOne-off
A one-off is a single meeting without an expectation that it will become a recurring arrangement.
Explore →Dating termOngoing arrangement
An ongoing arrangement is a casual connection intended to continue through repeat meetings.
Explore →Dating termPrivate gallery
A private gallery is a set of profile photos that only approved people can view.
Explore →Dating termCredits
Credits are units purchased on some dating services and spent on actions such as messages, gallery requests or virtual gifts.
Explore →Dating termIncognito profile
An incognito profile is hidden from general browsing and shown only in limited circumstances, such as to people the member has liked.
Explore →Dating termNot looking to change my situation
This phrase usually means the person wants a separate connection but does not plan to leave or restructure their existing relationship or home life.
Explore →Dating termOpen-minded
Open-minded means willing to consider different people, arrangements or experiences, but the phrase is deliberately broad.
Explore →Dating termSee where it goes
See where it goes means the person does not want to define the outcome before meeting and prefers to judge it from the chemistry.
Explore →Dating termCasual dating
Casual dating is meeting people without assuming exclusivity or a progression towards a conventional long-term relationship.
Explore →Dating termHookup
A hookup is a casual meeting centred on attraction, usually without an assumed relationship commitment.
Explore →Dating termNo drama
No drama usually means the person wants clear expectations, restrained communication and minimal disruption to everyday life.
Explore →Dating termLow-key
Low-key means restrained, private and without a large public or emotional footprint.
Explore →Dating termChemistry
Chemistry is the sense of mutual attraction, ease and interest that makes two people want to continue a connection.
Explore →Dating termSituationship
A situationship is a recurring romantic or physical connection that has not been clearly defined as a relationship.
Explore →Dating termCasual exclusive
Casual exclusive means a connection that remains non-traditional but where both people agree not to meet other casual partners.
Explore →Dating termAvailability window
An availability window is the part of the week or day when someone can realistically meet.
Explore →Dating termBroad location
A broad location is a town, district or outward postcode used for discovery instead of an exact address or live position.
Explore →Dating termPrivate profile
A private profile limits which members can see its details, photographs or presence in search results.
Explore →Dating termVerified profile
A verified profile has completed a check required by the dating service, such as confirming an email, phone number or live photograph.
Explore →Dating termBlurred photo
A blurred photo hides identifying facial detail while still giving a general sense of the image.
Explore →Dating termPhoto request
A photo request asks another member to grant access to a private or unblurred image.
Explore →Dating termMutual match
A mutual match happens when two members both indicate interest in each other.
Explore →Dating termGhosting
Ghosting is ending communication without explanation by suddenly stopping replies.
Explore →Dating termBreadcrumbing
Breadcrumbing is sending occasional low-effort messages to keep someone interested without making meaningful plans.
Explore →Dating termSlow fade
A slow fade is gradually reducing messages and engagement rather than clearly ending the connection.
Explore →Down to have sexDTF
DTF is an explicit abbreviation meaning someone is open to sex, often in a casual context.
Explore →Ethical non-monogamyENM
ENM means ethical non-monogamy: consensually having more than one romantic or physical connection.
Explore →Dating termPolyamory
Polyamory is consensually having or being open to multiple romantic relationships at the same time.
Explore →Dating termOpen relationship
An open relationship is an established relationship whose agreed rules permit one or both partners to date or have sex with other people.
Explore →Dating termMarried but looking
Married but looking means a married person is seeking a dating or physical connection outside their marriage.
Explore →Dating termAttached but looking
Attached but looking means someone in an existing relationship is actively seeking another connection.
Explore →Dating termDaytime date
A daytime date is a meeting scheduled during working-day or afternoon hours rather than in the evening.
Explore →Dating termWeekend arrangement
A weekend arrangement is a connection planned mainly around Friday evenings, Saturdays or Sundays.
Explore →Dating termRecurring connection
A recurring connection is one where the same people continue meeting over time.
Explore →Dating termOne-night stand
A one-night stand is a single sexual encounter with no expected continuation.
Explore →Dating termProfile bio
A profile bio is the written introduction that explains a member’s personality, intentions and practical availability.
Explore →Dating termIcebreaker
An icebreaker is the opening question or message used to start a dating conversation.
Explore →Dating termDeal-breaker
A deal-breaker is a condition that makes a person unwilling to continue a match or arrangement.
Explore →Dating termBoundaries
Boundaries are the personal limits that define what someone is and is not comfortable with in a connection.
Explore →Dating termClear intentions
Clear intentions means directly stating the kind of connection, pace and availability a person wants.
Explore →Dating termDiscreet meet
A discreet meet is a private date or encounter arranged without making the connection public.
Explore →Dating termLocal match
A local match is someone whose broad location and realistic travel time make meeting practical.
Explore →Dating termTravel mode
Travel mode is a dating-app setting or profile status used while visiting another city or planning a trip.
Explore →Dating termSubscription
A subscription is recurring access to dating-service features for a set period, usually a week, month or longer.
Explore →Dating termMessage credit
A message credit is a paid unit consumed when sending or sometimes opening a message.
Explore →Dating termProfile visibility
Profile visibility describes who can discover or view a dating profile and which parts they can see.
Explore →Dating termFlexible intent
Flexible intent means being open to more than one arrangement type while remaining clear about practical limits.
Explore →Dating termNo pressure
No pressure means a person wants the conversation or meeting to proceed without assumed outcomes or forced commitment.
Explore →Dating termSeparate lives
Separate lives means keeping a casual connection outside each person’s home, work, family and established social routines.
Explore →Dating termWeekday availability
Weekday availability means being able to meet from Monday to Friday, often during workday, lunch or after-work windows.
Explore →Dating termTravel radius
A travel radius is the distance or journey time someone considers practical for meeting.
Explore →Dating termPhysical connection
A physical connection is a dating arrangement where attraction and intimacy are central to what both people want.
Explore →Dating termSpark
A spark is an immediate sense of attraction or conversational energy between two people.
Explore →Dating termAttraction
Attraction is the interest that draws someone towards another person physically, emotionally or intellectually.
Explore →Dating termNearby
Nearby means realistically reachable for the kind and frequency of meeting being proposed.
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