Secret Dating in practice.
Separate does not have to mean unclear
Keeping a connection private is different from refusing to explain its shape. Availability, communication preferences and whether the arrangement is one-off or ongoing can all be stated without publishing identifying details.
Clear expectations reduce the need for repeated explanations and make it easier to find someone comfortable with the same degree of separation.
Use broad discovery rather than public identity
A username, broad location and private conversation provide a quieter starting point than linking an account to public social profiles.
The area should be practical enough to plan around but not so precise that it reveals a home or workplace. Exact arrangements belong in a conversation after mutual interest.
Decide how much contact belongs between meetings
Some private connections work through occasional planning messages; others include regular conversation. Neither should be assumed from the word secret.
Writing that preference into the profile filters for compatible communication styles before either person invests in a long exchange.