There is no standard frequency: ongoing describes continuity, while the actual rhythm depends on location, availability and what both adults can repeat comfortably.
Adults in the same area with predictable schedules may choose a regular weekly or fortnightly window, reducing repeated negotiation.
Monthly can still feel established
For attached adults, travellers or people in different towns, one or two meetings a month may offer enough continuity to build familiarity.
Irregular does not have to mean uncertain
A connection can remain ongoing even when dates change, provided both adults understand that future contact is intended and communicate when availability returns.
Common questions
Read this quietly.
Is once a month ongoing?+
Yes, when the same connection is expected to continue.
Should frequency appear on a profile?+
A rough preference helps attract adults with compatible capacity.
Can frequency change later?+
Yes, but it should change through a mutual conversation rather than silent expectation.
A fortnightly meeting fits one pair; another can only manage a monthly afternoon. There is no frequency that turns an arrangement into ongoing on everyone’s behalf.
Wording you can adapt
“Ideally I’d meet once or twice a month. Is that close to what you had in mind?”
What this clears up
Start with a preference, then see whether there is a sustainable overlap. Discuss what happens in unusually busy months so a missed week is not automatically interpreted as a change of interest.
